Questionably Answering the Unanswerable Question

Why do you like her?

I would rather try proving the String Theory rather than answering that question. How do you even answer this? It just raises more questions. 

A question that is unique to everybody. A question only you can give the answer. A question without any wrong answer but so hard to give one.  Life is full of questions but there's nothing as complex as this. It might take me a lifetime to give an answer yet there are times that I think that it's worth my while.

Love is so dynamic that people look for dynamic answers. It's just so compelling and intense that you are an unstoppable force in finding the answer.

Yet most of us just can't seem to find the right one no matter how much they try.

I've known people who had various partners in their life. Be it just a relationship or having several marriages, they're just not satisfied with what they've got. They thought that they have had the right answer yet it's either not enough or just plain wrong. The answer is just so vital that it may just change your life.

But some of us just stick to their answer for a long time.

Some just think they have the right answer and they know that in time, it will work out. They know that in the end, when it works out, they will be the happiest people on Earth. They posses the patience and time but some, in the end, succumb to depression and loneliness, thinking that they have wasted their time and just chased pavements their whole lives.

I'm one of those people who just wait and see. Waiting if I am right and see if it works out. I can wait, really. But sometimes truth will just slap you hard in the face and make you realize that you're wrong. We need to get over it because if not, we're never going to be happy.

A relationship is not all about sacrifices, it's about being happy.

That's why we don't need to rush these things because even if it breaks your heart to be just friends, if you really care for someone, you'll take the hit. I've learned it the hard way but I'm never giving up. But the all important thing is to never stop trying.

You'll just never know, right?

The Blog Project: Why Single People Give the Best Relationship Advice

How come that single people give better relationship advice than people in a relationship? Sometimes, single people give relationship advice to people in a relationship. Why is that the case?


The secret is that singles (not all, though) are DYING for a relationship. They have it in their mind on how they plan to pursue a serious relationship but they just don't have the guts to ask The One (refer to last post). Single people imagine themselves with their imaginary partner. I, for instance, am single and have all these creative ideas for a date. I imagine a date where it's a fairly windy night with lights everywhere, in a carnival or amusement park, we're having a great time while holding hands, etc. It's a very cool idea if you just know about it.


There's this excitement about having a relationship yet singles can't do this "fun dates" because they lack their partner. So whenever people in a relationship ask for advice, the singles incorporate their idea of a relationship to their advice. Actually, advice-giving is a mutual relationship. Both parties benefit in a way though the people in a relationship have the better benefit. People who took the advice receive precious nuggets of wisdom and will get all the credit for creativity. I'm not saying that people in a relationship are less creative but I think they've got a lot of responsibilities to fulfill and they get real serious in life.


On the other hand, the advice-givers gain the fulfillment of helping out. They also get to fulfill their "relationship fantasies" through other people and may have added another successful relationship to the world. Also, they earn the feeling of making someone (or some-two) happy, which is a very great feeling.
So when a relationship/crush dilemma comes along, it's just fine to ask advice but keep in mind that at the end of the day it's you who'll decide if you're going to do it and you'll be the one to face the consequences or the benefits of your actions.


After all, advice is just advice. It's just a bunch of words and letters. You're the one who's supposed to add meaning to it

Entity

In a world of strangers and thoughts
I live in the stiffness of darkness
With a bottle of water and
A slice of bread

Feeling the crisp coldness
Yet dry in my cheeks
As yet my inner body be

Entertaing a crowd of
A jacket that I call bestfriend
And of
A shadow that I call identity

The streetlights shining as
My sunlight in the evening
And the
Candlelight that lasts until morning

With every breath makes a fog
As I master the sound of silence
But with every footstep
Killing the stillness

And as I feel my sense
Is just emptiness
An old friend approached
Embracing me

Providing me the comfort
Life never offered

The Blog Project: Love Sucks

Have you ever been so down that you don't even know if you can still pick yourself up?

Have you ever loved someone so much that it hurts you as much?

Have you ever held on something that you know will never exist?

Love is too much, too complex for me. I've always lived for a one-sided love. I've never had someone who genuinely likes me (except for my family). I've never experienced how it is to be wanted, to be responsible for such an important task. It can't just exist in my dreams, in my fantasies because I know that each of us deserve to have this wonderful moments.

I don't even know why I get jealous of people who've had multiple relationships. I don't know why it makes me so desperate. I don't know why do I think that I live in a world full of jerks and their cute faces and their manly build. It's like they exist so that they could shove it in my face that they're better in all aspects -- and that they only deserve a relationship.

Love is never fair. Reality is never fair. If you are born an ugly duckling, you live forever an ugly duckling. In this world, there will always be someone who will be better than you.

Deal with it.

Fantasies are for kids. Touchy cheesy movies are for hopeless romantics. Love is for the people who are lucky enough. Depression is for the people fucked up by Life and Love.

Why live everyday just being let down by life, tripped by society and fucked up by reality. Why do we teach ourselves that we will have happy endings? Why don't we have happy middles or even start happy?

Everybody deserves to be loved. Everybody deserves a relationship. Be it monogamous, polygamous, platonic, acquaintance, family or exclusive with God, everybody lives for a happy relationship. Love only makes it better. Love makes acquaintances to friends. It makes friends to family and sometimes, lovers.

This is why Love is worth the wait. It's like being pregnant. Waiting for that miracle for 9 months. But with Love, it can take weeks or months or even years!

I have always been waiting for my miracle. No matter how long it will take, I will still wait.

Your Declassified Guide to the Friendzone

DISCLAIMER: The author will not hold any liability if bad things will happen after following this guide. If good things happen to you, my pleasure.


Welcome to the Friendzone!

Just to give you a brief background, the Friendzone is a state-of-relationship, zone, club or boundary established between two people wherein:

• One of them (You) develops romantic feelings for the other (The One) and lets The One know about it.

• The One doesn't return your feelings; but

• The One still considers you a friend

If you are experiencing/have experienced all of the situations above, you ARE in the Friendzone. If only two, you MAY be in the Friendzone. If only one, you are in a different relationship.


Now that you have been given a crash course in the Friendzone, let's get to the guide.


1. Establishing yourself in the Friendzone

Let me tell you this, establishing yourself in the Friendzone does not mean you have taken your relationship to a higher level. It means you have redefined your relationship being neither Platonic Friends nor Boy-/Girlfriends. It's like Purgatory, you don't know whether you'll end up in Heaven or Hell but you sure need to work everything out just to reach Heaven.

To establish yourself in the Friendzone, you must let The One be informed of your agenda. The "being informed" part is your initiation to the Friendzone, her reaction will be the one to decide your membership.

Possible Scenarios

Scene 1: The One reciprocates your feelings

Scene 2: The One calls the friendship off without reciprocating your feelings

Scene 3: The One accepts what you feel but still considers you as a friend

If such a scenario like Scene  #3 happens, then you are now an official member of the Friendzone.


2. Living with it

It's up to you if you still wish to maintain the status quo, nothing much will happen though. Chances are you'll lose interest to The One or The One will get his/her own boy-/girlfriend. That is if you play safe.

To actually LIVE the Friendzone, playing safe is not an option. If you think that The One is worth taking all the risks and and she is your 'The One', then do it! Do the moves! Be aggressive! Being aggressive is an important part in keeping your relationship healthy. Be not too aggressive, just safely aggressive.


(NB: Safely Aggressive - Doing 'The Moves' on the right time and the right place)

It's still your choice if you want to redefine what you've got but some people are fine with just being friends. They think that it's better to actually have something rather than nothing.


3. Redefining the redefined, defined relationship

Warning: Do this at your own risk.

If you think that you have what it takes then it's time to redefine your relationship! Be a man (or a woman)!

Redefining your Friendzone relationship with The One takes a lot of guts, balls (Idk what they call it in women), pride and etcetera. If you think that you are prepared to change the status quo, then change it!


A. Upgrading it to a Couple's Relationship

Well this is one BIG gamble. It's like preparing a party for a very perfectionist crowd. Everything must be arranged perfectly. The slightest mistake can jeopardize the whole event. In easy terms, you are prone to getting fucked.

Only two things can happen when you do this, either The One accepts or rejects. Accepting means you have achieved in upgrading your Friendzone relationship to a magical relationship that is built with the foundation of mutual love and trust. Rejections means, well, shit. When you ASK the question to The One, keep in mind that it's a question of all or none. You must be prepared for the worst at all times. Rejection redefines your relationship to non-existing. Nothing will be left even the slightest platonic feeling. Though there are cases that you will still remain friends but it will take a huge amount of time to recover from that situation.

Either way, you have successfully redefined your relationship.



B. Giving Up

This where it's almost impossible for you to fuck this up. It's simply giving up on your Friendzone relationship. There is only one, simple end to this you have redefined your relationship (again) to friends (again). Giving up is tough though, I guarantee that especially if you have spent a respectable amount of time and effort to The One. More often than not, it's a much harder decision to make than upgrading it to a Couple's Relationship.


Defining a Relationship is as easy as adding cherry on top. Redefining is adding something on top of cherry and making it work out.



End-note

Life is not all about Love but Love gives meaning to to how it is to live.

How do you live Life when you don't even love yourself?

The Oxymoronic Paradox of the Ironic Reality of Life

I cry but shed no tears.
I forget but always remember.
I sleep with my eyes wide open.
I smile with bitterness inside.
I work with no effort.
I learn but ignore.
I hear but I don't listen.
I fix but am broken myself.
I hope with a doubt.


I live but am dying.

The Blog Project: I'll Be OK

Don't expect because in the end, you'll just get hurt.

I'm not the man of great timings. It just sucks when you get a rejection from your invitation. You've got a great plan, great day ahead and everything just becomes ruined.

"I'm so sorry, I can't come."

Those words just pierce straight to my heart. Although it's just some wacky, out-of-nowhere get-together, it means the whole world when she comes. You get to meet her again, catch up and make her happy.

It's been more than a year. It just crushes me. I know I just get to be so annoying but I don't know just how to move on. I always get the feeling that I'm out of grasp, out of place from her world. I get the feeling that she hates me, I don't know. I suck damn it. I just don't feel great.

Moving on is hard especially if that someone made a great impact to your life. I just hope that I 've made even just a small impact to yours.

I hope this isn't goodbye